Category Archives: relationships

On a television show

I just watched the last episode of Friday Night Lights.  I started watching the show before I was engaged, before the man I love moved in, before we got married.  For someone who didn’t have a lot of positive examples of what a healthy marriage looked like growing up, the marriage between the characters of […]

On the great fear

One of the main reasons I started this blog in the first place was to talk about getting married for the second time, and what that felt like.  Except the whole wedding process has sort of swept me up and I haven’t been doing much of that.  Easier to look ahead than look back, I […]

On partnership

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about partnership.  It is time to refinance the house, and the long and short of it is that I have a choice: I can do a loan modification by myself or I can refinance—with the man I love.  It seems that I don’t make enough money to refinance […]

On being in a Muddle and getting out of it

One of my favorite books is A Room with a View.  I also saw the film at an impressionable age and consequently ended up spending a year in Italy—thank you, Merchant-Ivory.  For those of you who are not familiar with the plot, the year is something like 1908.  Lucy Honeychurch goes to Italy with her […]

My Romance

And here’s how I really feel about all this, right now: My romance doesn’t have to have a moon in the sky My romance doesn’t need a blue lagoon standing by No month of May, no twinkling stars, no hideaway, no soft guitars   My romance doesn’t need a castle rising in Spain Nor a […]

On knowing he is the one

I guess one could way to know if he is the one, or at least to know if you are in love, is when you start really feeling the standards.  With that, The Nearness of You: It’s not the pale moon that excites me That thrills and delights me, oh no It’s just the nearness […]

I’m Beginning to See the Light

In that same optimistic vein: I never cared much for moonlit skies I never wink back at fireflies But now that the stars are in your eyes I’m beginning to see the light   I never went in for afterglow Or candlelight on the mistletoe But now when you turn the lamp down low I’m […]

Looking at you

When I was feeling a little more hopeful, I sang this song to myself.  Note: I used to feel that it was a little awkward to be comparing some guy to Helen of Troy, but then I decided I couldn’t be bothered. Looking at you My troubles are fleeing I’m admiring the view Cause it’s […]

Down With Love

When I was really depressed about my romantic situation, I would sing this song to myself.  Occasionally I would do this with other people present; looking back, clearly I had very tolerant friends.  I was not a singer, but I had a friend in high school who was—she had the most amazing voice.  She’s the […]

Like Someone In Love

My friend Ann sung an amazing show that I saw recently called “Like Some One In Love.”  Here’s one of my favorite songs that she sang: What a day this has been What a rare mood I’m in Why it’s almost like being in love   There’s a smile on my face For the whole […]